i was reflecting last week. i seem to act with urgency, drama and excitement on just simple eventualities of my life! eventualities of not so real stuff compared to shaking problems of a typical human being. i act as if it was a world of problems when real people’s problems is a kaleidoscope of sorts! real problems of family life, finances, relationships, mindsets, failures, challenges and even dreams that are far beyond my ka-OAhan complications!
i felt that i am so loved by the lord. wala man ko sang real problems gid of that magnitude. i only have conceptual problems that i create, maybe to excite me and maybe to solve most-likely problems of the future (imagine sa future pa)!hahaha in short, binuang lang!hahaha here are some:
i felt na i can’t decide to commit on marriage now because i don’t want to have a family life like most people. sa survey, 84% of families has either or both parents having extra marital affairs (and i bet its far higher that stat since damo man hindi manugid or madakpan). ofcourse it is a kaleidoscope of reasons. things from a nagging wife, a less earning breadwinner, a poor connect on the level of conversations, a “libog” of sorts to physical attractiveness, an obsession for material things and a lot of other stuff.
things that i slowly and tried to continually solve now to have none of these issues affect any of my kids when they grow up. to have a perfect childhood! solutions that are too simple and weird to do. i know na hindi na ko madala subong sang physically attractive chic since i’ve realized years before that beauty and sexiness is just superficial. things i learned from dating beautiful women. after mag-edad ano?hehehe ofcourse, kasimple sang sabat. you shouldn’t sell your whole life with a superficial beautiful gal since in your 40s it is just a 10,000 peso experience to have a 20 year old super gorgeous and clean chic! just joking with common logic! i have created conceptual problems of these sorts earlier in life pero i try to not go overboard to make it a future learning and not a present problem..hehehe
if kami ni crystal, i know na hindi issue ang meeting a much more intelligent chic to share ideas and life with since honestly when we were a couple i never met someone more intellectually exciting than her! hindi man issue ang wealth potentials (i guess these type of issues drives most family problems) since we both acknowledge that wealth is just a state of mind. people don’t have financial flexibilty because their minds are closed. so in a physical, intellectual and wealth potential sense i know that these issues are already solved by creating conceptual (but not so real) problems that may have hurt both of us in some way. but to not bring a tear to our future kids!
my fear is what if i’d like someone for “no reason”? someone inferior in a finger-counting sense but defies reason. someone i can’t label as just beautiful, just intelligent and just wealthy to kill off interest. someone i just like without thinking! i know the answer to these as i knew the answer to being drawn physically to people years before, but these can be only solved by being in the situation and not as a 3rd-party reader of self-help books! i know that feelings are “fickle”. daw “tigbaw nga ginadapya sang amihan”. pero i won’t know until i cross the bridge. what if love is really risking (not placing into consideration being a part of the 84%) just to be personally elated at that instant? pero daw sala, daw ka selfish.hehehe pero hindi ko kabalo.
i guess it is still best to solve these issues before marriage (i guess it is the primary purpose of having a pre-marriage relationship). in a philippine societal setting, i guess women rush to marriage when they have physical contact with the one they have present relationships. it is not that they are ready for the long-haul but its because of a security need. so i guess its part of the reason why it is a high 84%++ ( i would even bet that its 95% if gasugid lang tanan maayo..hehehe daw laka gd man families ko na kilala na la prob..hehehe). ginapilit ta lang neglect ang reality because we are cataracted with the feeling of love. if you noticed, puro lang “ako” dire ang may issue.hehehe i trust crystal morethan i trust myself. she is the only person i know who is a well made and a strong person that is less affected by these ka-OAhan stuff..hehe maybe because of being truly near to the lord.
pero again, nahuya ko sang gnapang-sulat ko. it is not even comparable to real problems of people. it’s a future issue i’m trying to solve now. and it looks superficial. and i may look like a paranoid. pero it’s also the same superficial way i handle my businesses that’s why i haven’t failed so far. again, i wish that my choice is right!hehehe
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